“These three goods [concerning sex]–procreative, unitive, and sacramental–are a package deal. Our time has made several great errors about them. The first is trying to tear them apart. It doesn’t work; they are fused by God’s natural and supernatural design, and what God has joined, no man can put asunder. That doesn’t stop people from trying.”
“For example, some wives and husbands try to sever the procreative dimension from the unitive. They imagine that by refusing the ‘burden’ of children, they can achieve a better partnership, a higher intimacy. The problem here is that their partnership was designed for raising children, and any so-called intimacy which is deliberately closed to new life is merely a collaboration in selfishness” (J. Budziszewski in the Foreword to Open Embrace by Sam and Bethany Torode [Grand Rapids, MI: Wm. B. Eerdmans, 2002], xiv).